I act differently around different people, it’s not because I am fake…. It’s because I have different comfort zone around certain people.
An introvert is defined as a person who is shy, reticent, and a typically self-centered one. A person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things. The two terms Introversion and Shyness are often used interchangeably but are they actually same???
Consider two different situations where:
- You are in a business meeting surrounded by your seniors, juniors, and your colleagues. One of your seniors is presenting a new business model on a screen in front of you. You well understood the entire idea and formed an opinion in your head regarding the same. Now, its time for presenting your suggestions… All your colleagues have given their approval for the new business model. But you have identified certain shortcomings in the new model and therefore think it would be better to disapprove the new idea. But you chose to remain silent because of the fear of negative judgement and didn’t express your opinion.
- You are in an office party, surrounded by a lot of people. It is an informal party where you have the freedom of expressing your thoughts, your creativity etc without being judged. Some people are enjoying on the dance floor, others are just gossiping in groups… but you preferred to stay silent and enjoy your drink in a silent corner just because you do not enjoy their company and love spending time with yourself.
In both the above situations you are silent but, in Situation one, you chose not to speak because you feared of being judged…. and in Situation two, you just preferred being silent. This represents the difference between shyness and introversion. Shyness is the fear of negative judgment, and introversion is a preference for quiet, minimally stimulating environments.
So, next time you encounter an introvert Do not consider him a Shy Person. All the shy persons might be introverts but not all introverts are Shy.